Happiness: 7 unusual (and working) tips to be happy
HAPPINESS – Do you want to be happy? Here are seven tips to get there, based on the latest research in the field.
Walk like you’re in a shampoo commercial.
The general idea: What you do influences how you feel, says author Richard Wiseman in his latest book, The As If Principle. In other words, behave like you are happy and you will be, scientifically speaking.
One weird thing to do that might work: change the way you walk. The researchers found that people who walk with long strides (long strides, swinging arms) for three minutes feel “significantly happier” than those who drag their feet (small steps, shoulders hunched, face down).
2. Act as if nothing ever happened.
The general idea: Most of us have certain ideas of when or how we will best enjoy life (“When I get this job!” Or “If I get married”), which fact, prevents us from being happy, explains David D. Burns in his book.
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All of these received ideas do not only concern the future. To think constantly that if we had acted differently in the past, we would be happier today, is just as harmful.
One weird thing to do that might work: create a “new yourself”.
The first step: examine the thing or things that you absolutely wanted but didn’t get (eg “I wanted to skate at the Olympics!” Or “I wanted to have a child”).
Next, consider the specific reasons that prevented this dream from coming true: what people and/or events influenced you; what minor or major choices have you made?
Once this painful task has been done – a job most people avoid doing – you will be better prepared to imagine “a new yourself”.
In other words, you can start working on who you want to be right now, instead of comparing yourself or trying to catch up with the person you wanted to be before.
3. Give to help yourself.
The big idea: Give until you succeed, says Adam Grant, author of the forthcoming book Give and Take, on how generosity helps you thrive, not fail – even in the most difficult situations.
One weird thing to do that might work: buy your mom some cashmere socks. Researchers at Harvard Business School, the University of British Columbia, and the University of Liège have thus established that buying something for someone else, as long as it does not exceed a reasonable range of 3 at 15 euros. Makes you happier than buying the same for yourself.
4. Whisper in the dark.
The general idea: There have never been more Americans dissatisfied with their work situation than since the recession, says Lyubomirsky.
Certainly, this may be the result of lower wages and longer hours. But it may also be because we got used to the positive aspects of our jobs and saw them as secure a bit quickly.
One weird thing to do that might work: Make a list of everything you love – even adore – about your job: the open attitude to new ideas for example or a laptop you can take home.
If you’re one of the people who makes lists of things they’re grateful for just before going to bed, be aware that your partner may be a little worried about hearing you whisper in the dark: “Unlimited nutty milk. Nice boss. Free post-it notes. ”
5. Let go of the “smiley” thought
The general idea: some people play to win. Others play so as not to lose, explains the recent book Focus: Use Different Ways of Seeing the World for Success and Influence.
Finding out which type you belong to helps motivate you, succeed faster, and, quite simply, make you feel better.
One weird thing to do that might work: refuse to be optimistic (if you’re not a positive person). In an experiment conducted by the two authors, Heidi Grant Halvorson and E.
Tory Higgins, people “who play not to lose” (and also tend to be pessimistic) were given a word game. In the middle of the game, they were told they were successful – then they quickly lost motivation and stopped playing.
In contrast, when told mid-game that they weren’t really doing well, they were motivated to do better, solved more puzzles, and had more fun.
All of this brings us back to the good old principle of happiness: be yourself. You have the right to be pessimistic.
6 – wake up with a positive thought
To be happy, we need to remind ourselves that we are, or at least that we want to be. It’s pretty simple, but you still have to think about it.
This is why I invite you to keep on your bedside table or on your bathroom mirror a post-it on which is written a sentence that inspires you to be happy :
You can choose from these:
- This life is mine and it fascinates me. I decide to live it fully.
- Living is a privilege. Breathing is a privilege. I decide to accept this gift and be happy
- I don’t have to be rich or famous. All I want is to live stress-free and worry-free… Just be happy.
- Today is a beautiful day. I am happy!
- To be happy is not to have everything. It is not needing anything else.
- It takes little to be happy.
- I choose to do what makes me happy.
- I don’t exist to impress the world. I exist to live my life in a way that makes me happy.
- Pleasure is gathered, joy is gathered and happiness is cultivated.
- Every minute of cockroach robs me of 60 seconds of happiness.
Pick a sentence, write it on a post-it, and post it so you can see it in the morning.
You can also put a sentence that reminds you to be happy as a wake-up call. I have an iPhone and I can put a message on my alarm. Also, I can read when I wake up: “Beautiful thoughts build a beautiful soul. ”
You can make sure that beautiful sentences follow you throughout the day, by slipping post-its in your bag, your diary, on your desk, by setting alarms during the day.
7. Say Thank you
“It’s not happiness that makes us thankful. It is recognition that makes us happy. “
These are the words of the Dalai Lama in the Book of Joy. In fact, we often wait for good reasons to celebrate.
However, we know that great happiness is much rarer than small happiness. So, why not take advantage of all the little moments of joy and love in our daily life to create a great moment of happiness for ourselves every day?
Saying thank you to life and to the people around us is a great way to feel happy and lucky.
It is also a wonderful way to regain confidence in life, to have the certainty that whatever happens, there are beautiful things and beautiful times in our life.
That’s why I invite you every day to say thank you!
How? ‘Or’ What? You can use a gratitude journal in which you write down every night or every morning 3 things you are grateful for , or you can tell them to yourself.
Writing is still more impactful. When you write your gratitude, you will soak up it and above all, you will be able to dive back into it on the days when you will feel less well.
To dive back into your gratitude journal is to rediscover your smile and joy in life.
How to be happy every day? Saying thank you. Yes, but thanks to what?
What you want. It may be to say thank you to the Universe for the wonderful dinner you ate, for the magnificent sun that illuminated your day, for the birds who gave you a sweet concert, to your partner for his listening and his tenderness, to a member of your family for making you laugh.
Watch The video on how to happy every day by Jacqueline Way.